Who is Melissa Caddell?

 

Melissa Caddell-redheaded woman, smiling, gray sweater
Fun fact–taken at the Confucian Temple when we lived in Shanghai, China. So, not my usual photo where I’ve had to crop out a kid

About me-who is Melissa Caddell?

Yay! You’re here! I’m so happy you found your way to this little spot on the interwebs. Grab a lovely drink (may I suggest coffee?) and get comfy. All settled? Okay, I’ll go first:

Hello! I’m Melissa. I am a writer, mom of three and wife of one. When we are home in LA, I mostly spend my days driving kids to auditions, or going to Target, or trying to find a Starbucks with a drive-thru. Currently, we are in Tokyo, Japan for a work-related relocation. See next paragraph. :)

I have been married to my college sweetheart, Casey, for 24 years. He is a software engineer who gets to work for The Mouse as an Imagineer–I know, pretty awesome, right? He works on Mouse-related parks around the world and it has been very cool to get to go with him! He is an incredibly patient man to me and our bright and funny children who keep us thoroughly worn out.

Omg, I am so tired. (<-thus, you’ll understand about the coffee…)

We have three daughters [ages 19 (The Eldest), 16 (The Middlest) and 12 (The Littlest)] who are actors, writers, musicians and generally creative people. Basically, they have interests that seem to need a lot of driving to lessons and an increasing amount of equipment. Our house is full of ideas and chatter and the comings and goings of busy, creative people. (Note: The Eldest is in LA while the rest of us are in Japan right now. Yeah, so expect posts about this hard transition for our family… :( 

I was pre-med in college (I mean, weren’t we all when ER was on?) and turned to writing when I found myself an at-home mom with two babies, after I got my Masters in Public Health (wash yer hands!). I started blogging because I had a lot of things to say as I processed the huge transition from what I *thought* my life would be like and what it is *actually* like. (Anyone else? HAHAHAHA!) I also got to write for some parenting magazines, and that was super cool.

I came back to blogging after a move to Los Angeles and multiple life transitions left me composing blogs in my head while I sat staring at car butts on the 405 freeway. I have a lot of thoughts and it’s better if I share them here instead of with the Starbucks barista because it backs up the line.

My content strives to normalize things about living as a person in this day and age through the lens of faith, parenting, humaning and family. Life feels hard and isolating and we don’t realize that EVERYONE ELSE is struggling, too. I hope to provide a space to bring these aspects of life down to a manageable level. You are not alone.

You can expect posts to have:

— Stories and thoughts related to being a human on this planet. Recycling? Yes. Global injustice? Yes. The guy who stole your parking spot? Also, yes. (The jerk.) And I also write about relationships; sister, friend, daughter, and wife stuff.

— The hard and ugly questions I think we all share about faith. Because, jeepers, I am just struggling with my journey. (When I say ‘journey’ I mean the ugly ultramarathon kind. In the dark. Uphill both ways.) As a long-time person of faith, I just have a lot of questions and sometimes I’m really mad at God. I don’t understand a lot of things (and I am no scholar) but I figure it helps to write things down to process them. Humaning is hard. Doing it with hope seems to make it a little better. (p.s. I love Jesus but I swear a little. Sometimes a lot. Depends if I’m driving. You have been warned.)

— Parenting-related stuff. Mothering is hard and, well…..kinda mostly hard. At least for me. But, you know, amazing. (In a hard way, to be clear.) The enormity of the task of influencing humans is pretty staggering. My girls and I are working (and have worked!) through a lot of life stages together and it seems a shame to let all that pain and suffering go to waste. When I say ‘worked through’, I mean we are all still alive.

I love to share all of this through:

Processes-I think about and try to find a better way to do things. I look for the hack with food, family life, travel tips and the stuff of everyday living. If there’s a thing we all do, know that I am doggedly trying to find the simplest, easiest, most meaningful way to do the thing. But if you are looking for Pinterest perfect, you’re not going to find that here, so move along, these aren’t the droids you’re looking for. I am pretty raw and authentic–not because I’m that self-ware, but because I’m just too tired to do anything else. I do love me a good Mason jar craft or recipe, but I shall spare you evidence of my attempt. You’re welcome.

Passions-The world is an endlessly fascinating place and I nerd so hard. Our family travels, we read a lot, love to watch movies and I am aware that we all have an impact on this world. Hopefully, for the positive. Except to that jerk who stole my parking space. It’s people like him who are the reason I can’t have the Jesus fish on my car.

People—Which brings me to the crux of what this blog is about: being a better mom, wife, sister, daughter, human, and person of faith. I don’t know that I have figured out what Living My Best Life would look like (capitalization for irony), but whether I want to or not, I know I have an impact on the people around me. And so do you. I think we’re all doing our best, though some days our best may not be very good. But, we can learn from each other and get better. As Chidi Anagonye asks, ‘What do we owe each other?’ :)

So if any of this is your jam, pull up a chair and stay awhile. It’s going to be fun! Or, at least, caffeinated.

Hugs to you,

Melissa

Myers-Briggs: ENFJ (The Idealist Teacher—my top career recommendation is a fitness instructor. Hang out with me for about 3 minutes to know why this is HILARIOUS.)

Enneagram: 1w2 (Likened to the cultural aura of the Amish. Also, Switzerland.)

StrengthsFinders: Connectedness, Input, Belief, Intellection, Achiever

Disney Princess: Belle (Sacrifice yourself for someone you love AND get to read books? Sign me up!)